Happy Mother's Day - Be Sure to Pat Yourself on the Back for a Job Well Done

I know these days everyone strives to be the perfect parent, but let me fill you in on an interesting fact I learned from a psychologist friend...children don't need a perfect parent, they need one that is good enough. When first hearing this statement, you may be appalled (just as I was). But in our over-achieving society, it is good to know that you can make mistakes and not be perfect, and your child will still be okay.

Having said that, here are some ways to balance the chaos we fondly call motherhood.

• Take care of yourself, and you can take better care of your family. When was the last time you did something just for you - a pedicure, a long walk at the park, coffee with a friend? If you can't remember, make time for yourself as soon as possible.


• Accept it: Things will never be perfect. But that's OK. The world will not end if your son goes to school with his hair sticking straight up. Forget the impossible standards and focus on what you do accomplish each day. Your children feel more secure every time you tie their shoes, read them a book or give them a hug.


• Ask for help. Let older children help younger children get dressed. As your partner to empty the dishwasher. Trade babysitting duties with a friend so that each of you can have a real mother's day.


• This is your 'today,' not your 'forever.' The kids will leave home eventually. When they do, it is quite possible that you'll remember these hectic days with fondness.

Happy Mother's Day!!!